Feb 12 2009
Free Yourself From the Tyranny of Valentine’s Day
In a recent session that I had, my client felt depressed and distressed about the upcoming Valentine’s Day. She asked me if I get a lot of 911 calls for help around Valentine’s Day. The question took me a little bit by surprise. I realized that I was aware of how many people feel utterly lonely or completely unwanted (read…loser!) on Valentine’s Day. But I also realized how I don’t put too much importance on it. Why? Because Valentine’s Day is an illusion, created by mass consciousness (i.e. media and commerce), that we are all choosing to believe in. What do I mean by illusion? Here’s an example: If we all want to say “the sky is falling, the sky is falling” and run around scared and look for places to hide…does that actually mean that “the sky is falling?”
In this instance the Hallmark’s and Kay Jeweler’s and FTD Florist’s are telling us that we are unwanted losers if we aren’t getting any of those items from “someone special” on Valentine’s Day. I’m not an unwanted loser…and I don’t think you are either.
There is no energy around or behind Valentine’s Day other than what we project onto it. A projection is a choice. We decide what the day means to each one of us. So take back your empowerment about what the day means and make it your own celebration by your definition.
Although, Valentine’s Day is portrayed as a day of the heart, more than anything it is a day for celebrating the senses and sensual side of ourselves. You can enjoy your sensual self by yourself, with a friend, your family, your pet or someone in a nursing home who is all alone. Let your creative energies flow and reinvent what Valentine’s Day means to you.
Here are a few examples:
- Wear something exotic all day like a red hat with a veil.
- Create something sweet such as inviting the neighborhood kids over to dip strawberries in chocolate.
- Cheer someone up. Take someone who is feeling sad or alone out to dinner and tell her/him why they matter.
- Donate the money you would have spent on cards to your favorite charity.
- Give yourself complete permission to do nothing at all!
And married women…give the men in your life the ultimate gift of not having to do anything romantic on this day. They will love you for it. If you are feeling the need for romance, create it for yourself. Gift yourself a spa treatment, or take a bath with rose-scented bath salts, candles, a glass of wine and a wonderful book. If you’ve got a spouse, take all those good feelings into the bedroom and share them with him (or her). No spouse? Go to sleep early and set the intention of meeting up with an astral lover.
So taking my own advice in stride, how will I create my own Valentine’s Day celebration? By offering all of you a wonderful gift—my healing meditation for the heart.
Want to gift me something? Leave a comment on this blog about how you created Valentine’s Day to celebrate yourself. (Note: To leave a comment, click on “No comments” or “# of comments.” )
This is a two part healing meditation. The first part explains the process and the second part is the actual healing. It will be available as a gift until the end of February.
Enjoy!
Intro to the 4 Chambered Heart Meditation
4 Chambered Heart Healing Meditation
