Do you live with a teenager and wish you could have an authentic conversation with him or her? Do you freeze up when it comes time to explain your area of expertise to your peers? Does it feel like your spouse is on a different planet when you want to talk intimately?
All of these scenarios need one thing for successful communication—synchrony in timing. I don’t mean saying what you want in the right timing (like not asking for a raise right after you broke your boss’s favorite vase), although that is important as well. I’m talking about my timing and your timing being in synchrony. Before you read further let’s just try a simple experiment and synchronize our timing. Here’s what to do:
Imagine a dial with numbers between 1-10. Number 1 represents a state that is almost asleep, while 10 represents over the top hyperactive….similar to the effect of drinking 5 grande coffees. Without too much thought, just ask yourself what number are you on right now? Now set your dial to five while you read this (and if you’re already on five that’s fine). This is because I’ve set my dial on 5 while I write this. Reread this post and see if there is a difference in how you respond to it.
This technique was developed by Ron Davis, founder of The Davis Dyslexia Program and author of The Gift of Dyslexia. He developed it because he noticed that many dyslexic or ADD kids had timing issues in their classes. Kids who ran a faster inner clock than their classmates, actually felt time moving too slowly. This would heighten their fidgeting and boredom. Children who ran a slower inner clock felt time moving too fast and could never get their work done on time. And all of them had problems communicating with their teachers and peers.
Davis developed the dial for kids to self-determine what number they were on in comparison to those around them. Then with intention the child would adjust her dial to match. It creates an instantaneous and positive affect. People who use the dial feel an instant repoire with others as well as being in sync.
I encourage you to try this with your family or work place. Imagine the dial and ask what number the people (or person) who you want to communicate better with are on. Then ask what number you are on. Adjust yours to match theirs better. Observe your ability to engage and more deeply communicate. One tip here…you can’t change someone else’s dial. However, you can teach them the dial technique and then verbally ask them to dial down or up.
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I noticed when I tried this that my dial was almost always on 1 and sometimes I had a hard time moving it up.
I thought to use the dial in different ways. I noticed my dial was on 1 after having lunch. I did feel almost asleep & didn’t like that. I knew it had to do with digestion. I moved the dial to 2, to 3, feeling better all the time. It is now on 5.
This seem revolutionary to me. I feel so much better. I did some other energy and processing work around this a bit so it wasn’t solely the dials, but this post definitely started something fantastic! Thanks.
If you want to have an authentic conversation with someone, talk with them – not at or around them. So many people don’t seem to learn the basics of conversation – listening and showing an interest in what the person is actually saying. If you just use their talking as a time to prepare what you want to say it won’t matter if your both on the same “dial number”. David Rogers.
The key to better communication and better life results is always in the right side of the brain and Intuition even Einstien agreed when he said, “Intuition is everything.”
Julia, sorry to disagree with you. The secret to better communication (verbal, not nonverbal) is timing. You and I are on very different timing frequencies, hence “don’t get each other.”
gia
I continue to experiment with the dials–not just for communication with humans–for communication and timing between parts of myself.
I was working with intentions and noticed that my heart felt as though it had a hardness or block around it. My body felt as though it was part of the stream that Abraham speaks about and that it was able to flow downstream, which is without resistance.
My heart, however, wasn’t part of that stream. It felt pinned in place.
I decided to work with the dials. I asked what number my body that was flowing along with the stream was at: I got 12. Whoa! I brought that down to 5.
I asked what number my heart was at (this was using the idea of 1-10) and I got 20! Double whoa. I brought it down to 5 too.
Now, I tend to have low blood pressure, but doing this made me aware of some kind of internal imbalance and a hardness, a high level of pressure or something that was going on that I had not known about before. Needless to say, I feel much better. My heart & insides feel clearer.
I thought to report this here because those dials seem to me to have many uses, and we can help ourselves and each other out by discussing our discoveries. Melanie
Thanx for sharing your tools and techniques, I see Carolyn use this in many classes I have taken and I am always intreged then, so excited to use this consciously myself, especially after seeing the positive effects of this tool!! Thanx again Gia for all your contribution to the well being of this planet and universe!!
Peace and the Safest of Journies
Always with LoVe
Cheyenne
Hi Cheyenne,
Thanks for your great feedback. I have to give the credit to Ron Davis, however, who developed the dial as part of his dyslexia program. It’s so brilliant. I use it all the time for many things.
blessings,
gia
This methodology is very true and useful. We are Spiritual Beings in a physical world and body; all we have to do is ask our Spiritual Self; I call mine my Aura Being to do something and it will immediately carry out the task. A simple example is resetting time zones when you fly overseas. Set you watch to new time zone when you get onboard and ask you aura being to adjust you to this time zone.
With Love
Ian
Metaphysical Institute
Ian,
Thanks for your comment. I coined the word “Energy Body” to describe the spiritual body or aura body. You’re one of the few I’ve met who has an understanding of this part of our energy anatomy. Barbara Hand Clow is another. I use it exactly as you describe. Nice to meet a kindred spirit!
gia